People come into Counselling for a host of reasons… You may be feeling Lonely, Depressed, Anxious, Overwhelmed, Flat, Frustrated or perhaps Angry a lot of the time. It may be a relationship that’s failing or that you are recognising the same old themes playing themselves out in your life. It’s possible you’ve tried coping on your own and talked to family and friends for support but you still feel stuck and hurting.
Counselling allows you to build up your self-awareness. To identify what is going on for you and to help you clarify where you want to make changes in your life and to talk through how you are going to be able to do that.
My role as a Counsellor is to support you in a way that works for you and together we can explore what you may find useful.
My core training as a Psychotherapeutic Counselling is in Psychosynthesis which is a Psychospiritual Psychotherapy. This approach acknowledges the distress and pain of your current struggles but also holds a wider perspective… what is going on? why is this happening? and what is trying to emerge here? Therefore, what is troubling you currently will be the very thing that frees you, leads to your healing, psychological growth and personal fulfilment.
I also use various other approaches such as Internal Family Systems, CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), Solution Focussed techniques and Coaching tools where appropriate.
In therapy we will often reflect on the past in order to make sense of your experiences and to put that in the context of what is happening for you right now. Understanding through self-awareness and self-development how your potential may have been stunted through your past conditioning and exactly what you need to let go of or integrate is the key to healing.
It is about understanding what you may need to move forwards,; what needs to be heard in order to become your most creative, authentic and highest expression of yourself…
Counselling can help you through difficult times such as:
- Low self esteem
- Anxiety and stress
- Depression and Low Mood
- Suffering Loneliness
- Relationship issues
- Problems with Work or Family
- Bereavement, Loss or Endings
“We are not supposed to stay wounded. We are supposed to move through our tragedies and challenges and to help each other move through the many painful episodes of our lives. By remaining stuck in the power of our wounds, we block our own transformation. We overlook the greater gifts inherent in our wounds – the strength to overcome them and the lessons that we are meant to receive through them. Wounds are the means through which we enter the hearts of other people. They are meant to teach us to become compassionate and wise” Caroline Myss
Ask yourself, ‘why was I triggered?’…. Did I feel blamed, shamed, ignored, trapped, unheard, manipulated, helpless, judged…? And how is this an familiar experience to me…?
Some of the issues we can deal with together might be…
- to explore what troubles you, what you fear, or what makes you feel depressed, anxious or angry.
- to understand yourself more fully, your family history and how your life experiences have impacted upon you in order to heal and move forward.
- to look at ways in which you feel stuck or how you hold yourself back from living the life you long to live.
- to help improve the quality of relationship with others and your own self esteem.
- to support you in finding a way to connect to the meaning and purpose of your life, to look at the gifts and qualities you have to offer and how to express yourself more fully and creatively in your life.
Before you decide on taking up Counselling, often the hardest part is picking up the phone and deciding to do something about your situation. Once you’ve got yourself here and you start beginning to sort things through in your head it can feel such a relief to share, to feel you have the space to talk and the support you need.
Sometimes people come into therapy because they want someone else to change or to eradicate a part of themselves they don’t like – a part that may have been around for a very long time – however ‘unhelpful’ or sabotaging this appears to be…The key to change however is more about Awareness, Understanding and Compassion for that part, whether that’s between you and an other or with you and you alone…
The Counsellor can play the part of Midwife, of ‘Change Agent’ – Healing, Redemption and Transformation are all possible in the Counselling space. It lies primarily in the ‘click’, the relationship between the Therapist and the Client
